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Grieving the loss of your
dog is a very emotional and personal experience. As with any form of
grief, each individual will have his own experience. It is important to
understand that grieving the loss of your dog is just like grieving any other
loss; you need to allow yourself time to experience your emotions and time to
heal.
Grief is natural, and can at times feel overwhelming. Regardless of how long
you have had a dog; chances are you have formed a very close bond and grieving
the loss of your dog will leave you with a painful emptiness. There are normal
stages to any experience of grief, and loss of your dog is no different. You can
expect to feel one or more of the following emotions during the grieving
process:
Guilt
Whether your dog died from injury,
illness, or simply old age, you may feel like you should have done more. You may
put yourself through a serious of “What if” scenarios – What if I had taken her
to the vet sooner? What if I had bought a new fence so he couldn’t get out of
the yard so easily? What if I changed her
diet? This is normal, but adding guilt to your grief will not help you
recover from the loss of your dog any sooner. Try to put aside feelings of
guilt.
Denial
With any loss, denial is a natural
emotion. Some dog owners feel the need to get rid of anything related to the
dog, such as
beds, food, bowls, etc. For them, this can help avoid the possibility
of “forgetting” the dog is gone and filling her food bowl out of habit. For
others, they feel getting rid of these things is somehow disloyal to the memory
of the dog, and tend to hold on to things longer.
Anger
If your dog loss was the result of
an accident, you may feel angry toward those involved. Even if your sick dog
received excellent care, you may feel anger toward the vet who treated him but
didn’t save him. You may even find your feel anger toward God or the universe
while grieving the loss of your dog.
Depression
It may be hard for you to function
following the loss of your dog. You may find yourself feeling overwhelmingly
sad, and disinterested in daily activities. While this is normal, you
should seek professional help if you continue to feel so sad that you are
powerless over you feelings and finding it difficult to function.
Acceptance
Eventually, at your own pace, you
will accept the loss of your dog. This is not to say that it won’t hurt or you
won’t feel sad, but you will accept the reality of the loss.
You should face the process of grieving the loss of your dog as openly and
honestly as you can. Find people with whom you can discuss your feelings. Don’t
feel as though you need to be strong for other family members who were also
close to the dog. Grieving the loss of your dog together can be a healing
process for all of you.
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